Running from the Law: It’s a Man’s World

Law practice is still a boy’s club.

Sure, many women make partner these days and are promoted through the ranks in in-house legal departments.

But what controls are in place to ensure the retention and promotion of women at small law firms?

In my experience:  NONE.

I had dinner with a friend last night who repeatedly referred to herself as “the girl in the frat house.”  She is the only female associate at a small law firm, where the practice (and the professionals) is testosterone-driven.

Rather than sharing her story, however, I will share my own.

In my former position, I worked at a small law firm of less than ten attorneys.  Both named partners were men, all of the senior counsel were men, and all of the associates and support staff were female.

My boss had a very specific modus operandi when making hires.  Not only did he only hire women, but he was very deliberate about what type of woman, which even extended as far as ethnic profiling.

Each one of us had been unemployed upon being hired by the firm, enabling him to offer inappropriately low salaries which, in our respective desperate states, we simply could not say no to.

But it didn’t stop there.

My boss was a large and menacing individual, prone to mood swings and eager to assign blame.

If a clerical error was made (usually by his own inability to spot a typo), he would yell at the secretaries often until his fit had elicited tears.

If he couldn’t find a file (usually because he hadn’t bothered to look) he would convert an experienced associate in to his personal file clerk, forcing them to upend half of the office until finally the file would just magically appear on his desk…all the while making the capable associate feel entirely incompetent.

He would yell and scream and threaten.  And while I was assured upon hire that raises and reviews would occur annually, I only received one of each during my time there.  On my last day, I was still being paid less than I had asked for on my cover letter.

If we asked for reviews or raises he would say that if we wanted more money that we should look for another job.  Then he would tell us that we probably wouldn’t find anything else, but that he could find someone else to do our jobs for less.

He would skip reviews and raises in January, but drop Godiva chocolates on our desks on Valentine’s Day.  He would always tell us with a smile, eagerly seeking our praise and gratitude.

He never learned anything about us.  He always considered us fungible.  We meant nothing, we had no value to him — even though we were the ones running his business.

On a day after being particularly nasty, he would be particularly kind.  This made us feel remorseful for all of the angry cursing and muttering we’d made under our breath the day before.

He always created an environment where we simultaneously hated him but felt forever in his debt.

It was, in so many ways, an abusive culture.

But, as such a small company, we did not have a human resources department, or any other controls in place to create a forum for the female employees to express their concerns and fight for appropriate raises and promotions.

If you didn’t like how the boss was running things, you had only one option:  LEAVE.

Have you ever worked in an “testosterone fueled” environment?  What resources were available to either put a stop to the uncomfortable behavior or help you cope?

For more articles from the “Running from the Law” series, click below:

Running from the Law:  The Social Network

Running from the Law:  Personal Injury Equals Personal Insult

Running from the Law:  Soul Crushing

Running from the Law:  Dinner with a Friend

One thought on “Running from the Law: It’s a Man’s World

  1. Is it totally ridiculous that this post was reassuring to me in a completely twisted way? I much prefer working in testosterone filled jobs than the ones where I’m surrounded by women. I have never gotten along with females who have authority over me because I have issues taking them seriously. And in my experience, they are way more easily offended than men… so being that I’m a pretty offensive person at times, it can be an issue. I feel so much more comfortable around men when it comes to the workplace, even if it means being belittled sometimes. Back when I worked in my first corporate job, I had a boss who would go bat shit crazy on me on the reg, and as soon as he left the room my reaction would be to laugh uncontrollably and then carry on with my day as if it was normal. Being screamed at and looked down on from time to time doesn’t really have much of an effect on me. I’m not sure if it’s because I was meant to be a dude so I am just not as sensitive… or because deep down I hate myself. Then again, I was only at that job for 3 years before I quit and opted to spend my days driving around a golf course intoxicating guys instead of working for them… By year 5, I could see it starting to get old.

    Anyway… back to studying. lol I hope you find a great job where you’re happier and more comfortable. 🙂 I love when your blog posts pop up in my Twitter feed. They’re always fun and interesting to read.

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